The Many Faces of Marriage

August 23, 2013

Memoirs of A Geisha

See this face?

I almost named this post “Memoirs of a Geisha.” But before we slip down a rabbit hole, let me return to partnership, love, romance, and sweet plans.

I’m getting married

Married! We’re doing it in two parts, the first a tiny little thing I’ve called the stage fright wedding, with a miniscule cluster of loves holding space for the man and I to make it real. Stepping off the silly of “stage fright,” it’s also about the powerful feeling of making this move for ourselves. In a tiny ceremony, we can focus on each other. We can make it about the two of us making choices in each other, planning our lives more intently than the gathering.

Then the following summer, we’ll have the big wedding bash, with friends, and family from far away. We’ll have tasted what marriage is for the two of us, and then on that steady ground, post-beta, we’ll launch Wedding 2.0. Public vows, parties, cake and community. Celebration of not only what the man and I have done together, but in the arms and eyes and hearts of friends and family.

Fun prep + play

Leading up to our tiny start, I’ve been finding a dress, planning lodging and location, and doing fun things like heading to the makeup counter with a girlfriend to get my wedding makeup done. We started at a gorgeous, famous San Francisco bar, heard stories from afternoon regulars that reached into the way back of SF’s uber-fab socialite history. Then we slipped over to Sephora, where I sat under the lights, and layer by layer became the creation you see above. I’d open my eyes after a layer or two and wonder where the look was headed. My makeup artist had told us she liked to focus on a bride’s natural beauty and keep things neutral. I loved that idea. Neutral. Natural. My Style Statement is Sacred Natural, after all. At one point I opened my eyes and realized the train had run off the tracks. Makeup lesson learned: Neutral tones do not necessarily a natural bride make.

I came home and mugged for the man. We laughed and danced. I wiped off the brows and the foundation and unpeeled the eyelashes. Then, with still-fabulous eyes, we went out for neighborhood tacos.



{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Joy August 24, 2013 at 8:20 am

I am so happy for you, Pema! This message speaks right to my heart and for that I thank you!


Pema August 24, 2013 at 3:05 pm

Thank you, Joy! <3 Hearts in convo.


Britt Andreatta August 24, 2013 at 10:52 am

LOL! I’ve had that same stylist — I think working under flourescent lights every day changes their eyesight!


Pema August 24, 2013 at 3:04 pm

I think I’m just a little less 24/7 glam as all that :) But it was fun.


Katie Grant August 24, 2013 at 8:37 pm

Pema! I’m so happy to hear your news. I love that you are doing it in your own way and truly honoring your relationship in the process. xox


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