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A Lullaby to Convenience

March 16, 2012

Couldn’t resist this song’s edge nor it’s softness after yesterday’s post.
Delicious its complexities.

“splinter” by Ani DiFranco

somethin’ about this landscape
just don’t feel right
and lit up all night

like we just gotta see
how comfortable comfortable can get
like we can’t even bring ourselves to sweat
like we can’t even bring ourselves to sweat

sweat in the summer, shiver in the winter
just enough to know that we’re alive
watch out for that t.v., it’s full of splinters
and remember you can always go outside
really really really far outside

and some might call it conservation
some might call it common sense
and maybe it’s because i’m a libra
i say balance balance balance balance
i say balance balance balance balance

who put all this stuff in my apartment?
who put all this ice in my drink?
who put the poison in the atmosphere?
who put the poison in the way i think?

o women, won’t you be our windows
women who bleed and bleed and bleed
women who swell with the tide and change when the wind blows
show us we are not separate from everything
show us we are connected to everything

so here’s to the joys and trials of living
here’s to feeling our share of pain
yes all the way from childbirth to dying
here’s to staying connected to everything
here’s to being connected to everything

(thanks to Danah Boyd for the lyrics)

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Brandi Carlile and band ROCK “The Story” at Lilith, July 10, 2010, Los Angeles.

That’s what we’re gonna do, ‘kay, Story Changers: Lovers? ‘Kay.

Get ready. We start on December 2.

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For women only (this time around)

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Duration: 9 weeks = One intro call, with intention setting and getting to know each other. 7 weekly calls on the course work. One closure call at the end of the group.

Dates: Dec 2, 2010 to Feb 3, 2011

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What do you give?

November 16, 2010

Since I’ve come home from my long summer, there’s been a whole lot of getting used to my newer, expanded, more grown up self, back in my not-new surroundings. One of those areas is work. Do I still fit in to the same places? What do I give, these days? Right this minute, as I type that very sentence, I get a text from my uber-pal and favorite witness in my life’s travels. She sent a picture. Here, I’ll share it:

In keeping with serendipity, and knees-deep in updating my portfolio, I give you this story, of the day Mary J Blige, Heart, Metric, and Sarah McLachlan played a live soundtrack to this question as it unspooled in me: WHAT DO YOU GIVE?

Moved by music

We step out onto 7th Street, near the entrance of the club Prince made famous in “Purple Rain” and where punk made its mark in Minneapolis. Painted black and covered with big silver stars, we slog past it across the street to the Target Center and even this early in the morning, I can feel pop culture history crackle in the intersection.

On the menu: Tired. Chaos too. Things are not where they’re supposed to be and stage set-up is already cramped for time. Tension high, moods ugly. There’s no coffee yet. It’s too early for this rush.

But then something happens.

Read the rest: “What do you give? Diary of a day on the road with Lilith,” posted originally on ALTER ECO TRAVELS.


Go slow & Get in the way

September 8, 2010

Yawn. Creak. Pop.

Good morning, internet. I’m up I’m up I’m up!

Lilith tour was amazing. Alter Eco rocked the continent. The work I got to do for them–meeting thousands of people, offering behind-the-scenes views of Lilith, giving away crazy good chocolate and introducing people across the country to fair trade–was wildly good work indeed. Now I’m in NYC for a spell, writing writing writing. It’s time to come back to StoryCharmer. So many stories to relay, observations to share.

Ready to go

I hopped on tour ready to go, full gusto. Gotta deliver to the people! Gotta make the most of this out-the-roof opportunity to travel with the concert tour that changed a pop culture paradigm: Did you know that when the band, Heart, first hit the airwaves, radio stations would only play one song per hour by female musicians, and it was unheard of to book to female acts on one stage? Lilith swept the nation in the 90s and helped change that.

So when I got the green light, I was bouncing, assembling, strategizing, ready. And then we bounced across the country, juggling mass public interface with not enough sleep, interviews and videos with not enough time, and rabid joy with relentless wonder. It was a stimulating, life-changing 6 weeks.

Go slow and get in the way

On the trip I met Leslie, Lescake, Leslie Lovestein. The girl is beauty like the sky, all wonder and wow, and she moves through life like soft breeze, sensual, surprising sometimes and welcome everywhere she goes. From her I learned to slow down. Get in the way. Stop taking myself into consideration as if I’m in the way when I walk into a room, as if there is business being conducted there and I am an extraneous part of it. I have this age old practice of being available and on the periphery: grab me when you need me, I’ll be right over here out of the way.

But Jeezis Louizis, my job is to be in the middle of everything right now! I watched Leslie stand in a room and look around, breathe and let people pass her, join her, I watched her sit comfortably in her own skin and let the world do its thing around her. In that bustle and flow, she was a light we all bumped up against, moths on the porch.


I would see Leslie and I would slow down. Breathe. Stop, even, and take in where I was. It was a different experience to be present right there right then, than to be receding to the background making sure I go unseen, staying out of the way, letting the work go on as it needs, bla bla bla….

Stop. Breathe. Chill a minute and watch how life continues around you. Notices you. Or doesn’t.

Now I’m in New York, where it is the MOST fun to slow down. Everyone is in a hurry, so chances are I’m going to get in the way anyway. I might as well…do it with gusto. Stretch time. Go slow. And see what’s inside the hustle, see what changes in my flow, see what it feels like to be noticed, taken into consideration, reacted to, seen, related to.

[Stops. Breathes. Looks around. Sighs. Smiles.]

It feels good.


The Lilith Road

Hello from the road! It’s been an amazing journey. My blog post on Alter Eco today goes deep to tell the richness of what I’m experiencing here, both as a woman, and a supporter of collaborative enterprise, and, you know, MUSIC!

Take a peek.

(P.S. It includes the gorgeous images of David Bergman, the tour photographer. So pretty. You don’t want to miss them.)