Stoking the Flame of Story with Hot, Hot Meg Worden

June 2, 2011

Moth, meet Flame

I just got off the phone with Meg Worden, of and Feed Me, Darling. If you don’t know her yet, you’ll know her soon. Because the bonfire she’s building on her beach is so bright, so gorgeous, so big and hot and primal and core, that it’s easy to recognize. It provokes the personal fire, the one within. One glimpse and it’s easy to warm to from a mile away. Easy to move into from the darkness.

Meg knows darkness. As we all do. But she speaks it. In the process and practice of a lifetime, she unclouds her light and just lets it riot. How? In the feeling. In the living. In the telling.

We talked about our businesses and our relationships. We’re both restless explorers and noodle the nature of NEW when we talk. In our conversation’s edgiest moments, we’re addicts remembering a high–moving cities, meeting people, growing fast, figuring it out. Or fantasizing a score–absorbing experiences, eating them alive, forgetting to breathe…then…remembering our heads…cooling out…basking in flight.

What I loved so much about today’s conversation was what she said about telling. Sharing. Letting it out. She said:

“I’m building deep relationships by telling my core story. When you decide to hold totally true to your vision, people are attracted like moths.”

To a flame, people. We want that flame. We WANT it!

A break off the big light

We want it because we can feel our own flickering to get out.

What is your core story? Do you know? Does it hound you to get out? Do you push it back in thinking you’ll be castigated if you share it? Will you be?

What is the prison you freed yourself from? Or the one you’re still in?

Meg also said:

“Your awareness expands the entire shape of you. When you are unconsciously feeding yourself, it IS poverty, even if you’re eating filet mignon.”

She’s talking about food here, right? Being the health:business smart cookie that she is. But I’m gonna spin it to story. What. Are you eating. Unconsciously? What untrue trash are you feeding yourself about NOT sharing. About NOT having a story to express? About not being enough to say what there is for you to share.

You know what I know? What I absolutely know down to every electron in my cells? Your. Story. Changes. Lives. No shit. So does mine. So does your friend’s, your partner’s, your mom’s.

You know why? Because each story is a little (or big) break off the big light. It’s a spark from the big fire around which we ALL warm our hands. It’s life. Individually and in numbers. More specifically, it’s information that someone else needs. Not only in the words, mind you, but in the soul that you express while expressing them.

Snap. Crackle. Listen.

Ever hear someone say about a musician, “That gal, she could sing the phone book and I’d listen”?

People listen. It’s all we want to do. We want to hear and be heard. We want to know we exist, and we know it by seeing ourselves in others. In their stories. In their expression.

So what’s your phone book?

Better yet, what are your stories? Where is your voice? Are you singing it?

Here’s another gem from my conversation with Ms. Meg today:

“What is the difference between the people who lead and the people who don’t? It’s not that leaders have more of anything. It’s that they have the ability to walk into it.”

They have the ability to see, and accept, and BE all that they are, and all that there is for them to be. And to walk into it. That’s it.

I know, right? Phenomenal.

If you are worried that you don’t know who to be, or what to do, or with what to lead, tell your stories. Take a listen to who you are. The answers will come with the expression.

Said Meg:

“What we’re creating is evolving in a way that creates the next hit. We need to just create a life for ourselves that accommodates who we are today.”

Are you stuck on the overuse of that “create” word? Don’t be. It’s there for a reason. Over and over and over. Creation is now and now and now.

Story saves lives

One more thing from Meg before I give the fire back to the flame:

“Use story to create connections rather than having a one sided story about your life.”

Thank you. Can I get a witness. That is WHAT it’s all about. Story inside you runs you. Story outside you makes you friends, community, tribe, witness. Takes you to meet humanity.

Get your story out. Get it said. Go up in flames in the telling if you have to. Inside the crucible is you. New. All clean and transformed. And purified by fire. The fire that’s already inside you. Flickering.

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Julene June 2, 2011 at 10:17 pm

Wow! No, really, WOW. What better inspiration could I read as I’m about to embark my own story telling. My first blog is going up as soon as I figure out how to post it…. I feel like an old soul learning how to deal with all this gosh-darned-new-fangled-technology. An old dog learning new tricks. Thanks, Master.


Pema June 7, 2011 at 3:43 pm

Tell it, sister. Can’t wait to read what you have to share.
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rafael June 3, 2011 at 1:38 am

understanding life through another one’s eyes – brilliant concept. thank you Pema for opening and sharing your story (and work) so we can build ours.


tanya June 3, 2011 at 8:18 am

Tender Pheonix… dancing in the flames of vulnerability. Yes. Yes. And yes. Thank you!


Pema June 7, 2011 at 3:44 pm
Irving Podolsky June 3, 2011 at 9:27 pm

I agree, we all have a story. We all ARE a story. We all are a bundle of feelings needed to be expressed and shared. And what I’ve found, now that I’ve journeyed more years than I want to admit, is that expressing my story is important, yes. But LISTENING to my friend’s, lover’s, boss’s, child’s, enemy’s story is even MORE important.

Everyone wants to share, even the quiet one’s. For those who feel reluctant to “talk” about their lives, feelings, fears, wants; we must be even quieter than our “quiet” friends. We need to subtly let them know we CARE and will take responsibilities for their secrets. Because ultimately, what we all seek, and can’t find enough of, is TRUST.

Only with trust, can we share our stories. Only with trust, can we share our love.



Dave June 7, 2011 at 4:29 pm

Damn, you’re amazing.


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